Male domestic abuse: A true case study

More men are speaking out about their personal experiences of domestic abuse and male domestic abuse awareness is on the rise. Between 2012 and 2016 there was a total of 525015 reported male domestic abuse victims in England and Wales. (Statistic from

But there has been a groundbreaking first in the courts and for domestic abuse law. Yesterday (16th April 2018) J Worth, a 22-year-old university student, became the first woman to be convicted and sentenced for the horrific acts she subjected upon her former partner.
Worth scalded and stabbed her victim as well as striking him with blunt objects, she withheld food from him and even took control of his Facebook account. She would decide what he could wear and she isolated him from his friends and family.

Worth had met her former partner (let’s call him X for arguments sake) whilst they were at college in 2012. It was said that she became violent with X, who suffered from hydrocephalus (a condition which causes a buildup of fluid in the skull), which left him vulnerable. She wounded him with a knife and refused to help him get to hospital when he was in need of treatment.

The court heard that her victim couldn’t sleep in the same bed as her and this continued for nine months. Neighbours also stated that they had often heard arguments and the sounds of things being thrown around the house.
They also said that they heard X shouting “Get off me, you are hurting me” at Worth and he was then seen with black eyes, a limp and his arm in a sling.
Another neighbour stated that they had heard X shouting “get off my head, don’t keep doing that to my head”.

When paramedics were called, they noted injuries to X’s hand, burns to his arms and legs, which were being self-treated by clingfilm. X was then taken to hospital, where it was stated that 5% of his total body surface was scalded.
Worth was arrested a few days later.

Judge Madge told Worth that as well as the violence she had carried out on her former partner, she had refused his adequate bedding and food. He then went on to say Worth would “belittle” her partner and discourage him from contacting his family and friends.

Worth was subject to a restraining order which prevents her from contacting X for an indefinite period, as well as having to serve a seven-and-a-half year prison sentence, after she pleaded guilty to the offence of controlling or coercive behaviour, as well as wounding with intent and causing grievous bodily harm with intent.

Domestic abuse is a tricky subject to face. The victim has to admit that they are a victim but that can also risk their safety so a lot of victims don’t speak out because they are ashamed, scared, have no one to talk to or just don’t know what support is out there for them. However, there are organisations out there who can help victims get out of the relationship and to make sure they keep safe, some organisations even provide counselling if the victim needs it. The first step is finding the organisations and speaking out about it, until then, things won’t get better.


More Money for Maddie madness

JS147904943Hunt for Maddie gets cash: Government approves Scotland Yard’s ‘£150,000 boost’ to their seven-year search for missing Madeline McCann while London suffers murder epidemic- Daily Mail website.

I saw this article and I was raging!

Last month, Duncan Simm, a friend of my partners, went missing whilst on a night out during his studies at St Andrews University in Scotland. Despite searches and public appeals for information, as well as countless social media pleas, he is yet to be found. The police suspect that he could have been buried under concrete in one of the trenches which was being worked on at the time of his disappearance but there are no certainties.
Had Duncan’s family had a £150,000 boost from the government to assist with finding him? No, they haven’t. Has any other missing person, or child for that matter, had that level of financial support from the government? No, they haven’t. They would have been told that they have all the support available through their local police force. There is absolutely no way they would get the obscene amount of financial help the McCann’s have received.

Also, any other parents would have been hauled in by social services and convicted with child neglect had they of gone on holiday and left their children in the hotel room whilst they went on the piss with their friends. So why weren’t the McCann’s dragged through the system? Surely it makes it worse that they were both people of professions and should have known better?

Why is there STILL so much public money going into this investigation? Especially when all of the published evidence is pointing to Kate and Gerry McCann.
It has to be asked, if there was an abductor, then why did they only take Maddie? Why not take the twins as well? Why was there no evidence of a forced entry? Did they leave the room unlocked? If so, why? They were staying in a hotel, surely they would have had the sense to make sure their kids were safe?
How was Maddie’s blood and DNA found in a rental car they hired AFTER she went missing if they had nothing to do with the disappearance? Why did they wash Maddie’s stuffed toy?

There are so many unanswered questions!

And while our government throw money at the McCann’s to continue the search for their ‘missing’ daughter, the REAL problems that the country are facing remain unresolved.
I’m sure that £150,000 could be put to better use. It could fund more police officer positions, trainee nurses, shelters and support for domestic abuse victims, it could also be used to help tackle the growing number of knife/gun crimes in London.

What makes this case so important?
What hold do they McCann’s have over our government?

When will people say enough is enough?

UPDATE: I would just like to add that Kate McCann has made a whopping £84,000 in royalties from her book about her daughter’s disappearance… Does that mean she can give £84,000 back to the government to replace some of the £150,000 boost that Scotland Yard was granted in order to assist with the search? I don’t see that happening somehow do you?

A rant about Generation Y

JS147904943I have noticed of late that there have been number of articles concerning these so-called millennials, which are a generation of people (aka Generation Y) who are considered to be under the age of 35 (according to the Daily Mail).

The latest article I read involving the Generation Y was published on the Daily Mail website and stated that Sainsbury’s is to start selling raw meat in touch-free packaging for the people who are squeamish about touching raw meat. Now, don’t get me wrong, the concept is a pretty good idea and I’m sure it will sell and make them a few bob, but we really have to wonder what kind of generation we are raising here, I mean we already have the people who are offended over the slightest thing, we can’t make a joke or a throw-away comment these days without someone crying outrage and it being classed as a hate-crime because someone took it too seriously.
Kids cartoons have become more PC too and don’t even get me started on the freedom of speech on social media platforms- there is no such thing as freedom of speech these days.
Newspapers are constantly having to print apologies because of the articles offending someone and we have numerous products being sold  which makes people less and less subject to the real world, take those motion-sensor hand sanitser things for example, just press the bloody top for gods sake! Yes hygiene is important but bloody hell people have taken it to the extreme!
Kids used to be able to have conker competitions at school without any rules but these days there are either rules establishing that kids wear goggles if they have conker fights or they are just purely banned because someone could get hurt. There was none of this crap back when I was at school.

So it makes me wonder what kind of generation we are raising. Are we raising a generation where everything will be medically sanitised and no one will have a strong enough immune system to fight off a common cold? Or are we raising a peace-keeping generation where no one will say boo to a ghost just in case it opens the ‘I’m offended’ can of worms? Are our children going to have a voice of their own or will they be silenced as soon as they have an opinion which isn’t politically correct?

Are our future generations screwed? I think so.

Domestic Abuse and the law


Domestic abuse awareness is massive right now and so I was pleased to see that an ex-soldier who bullied and beat his girlfriend into taking her own life has been locked up. As a former sufferer of Domestic Abuse, I take an keen interest in cases that result in a conviction for the perpetrator.

In 2015, the government introduced a new law into the Serious Crimes Act. S.79 states that it is now an offence to submit controlling or coercive behavior in an intimate relationship. Coercive control is when someone makes a victim feel dependent, isolated or scared.

The case of the ex soldier, as mentioned above, is said to be the first case which has successfully held a conviction for the death of a victim of controlling and coercive behavior.

Gane was sentenced to fours years and three months in prison for driving his former partner to suicide and was also found guilty of grievous bodily harm and one count of assault by beating.
He also employed the ‘gaslighting’ technique, named after the 1944 film Gaslight, in which a killer tries to make his wife think she is going mad. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, hoping to make them question their own memory, perception, and sanity.

The court also heard how he pinned her to the floor and throttled her and subjected her to, what the judge described as, “domineering and grossly humiliating behavior”. It was also stated that he searched her bedroom to see if there was another man there and sniffed her underwear to see if she had been unfaithful. He called her a ‘slut’ and accused her of cheating on him.

The prosecutor requested that the judge impose a Criminal Behavior Order on Gane due to him being a danger to any woman he is in a sexual relationship with. He was also found in breach of a suspended sentence for possessing a prohibited weapon – a stun gun disguised as a mobile phone.

So he gets 4 years? For causing the death of a partner who was abused physically and mentally by him. Four years. That is disgusting. I know the law is finally siding with victims of DV but that sentence is an insult, especially with the other crimes he is charged with.

But at least this case is more successful than the one I read this morning.

Drug user Bradley Hodson inflicted ‘outrageous’ violence throughout the three-year relationship, punching her for no reason and kicking her head before saying ‘look what you have done to yourself’. He kicked his pregnant partner in the stomach, threatened to kill her and stopped her wearing shorts.
Hodson also told her how to dress, banning her from wearing shorts and vest tops on warm days. He bit, punched, kicked and stamped on his girlfriend, banned her from using Facebook and cut her off from her family, Stoke-on-Trent Crown Court heard. And he even accused her of being unfaithful – which included claiming she was ‘sleeping with another woman’.
Hodson took hold of her hair, threw her to the floor and kicked her in the stomach a few times. On one occasion she took his bank card from him so he could not buy drugs and he punched her in the eye.

Luckily, this piece of shit has been jailed, however, the prison sentence of two years is a little insulting. He also has a five year order placed on him banning any contact with his victim.

‘He isolated her and cut her off from her family. He did not allow her to use Facebook and accused her of being unfaithful,’ she said. ‘He accused her of having parties in the house when he was upstairs.’ – Prosecutor F, Cortese.

Hodson is a classic example of a perpetrator. He is completely textbook. I have had the pleasure of attending Pat Craven’s Freedom Programme on a couple of occasions during and after my abusive marriage ended, I have learned all the traits of a dominator and I can safely say that neither victim was at fault. Perpetrators seek out their victims, they tend to go for vulnerable women who can be easily manipulated and break them down until they lose all confidence and self-worth. Unfortunately the perp’s don’t go around wearing a sign but if you’re in a relationship with a person and you want to make sure they have no convictions of domestic abuse, then you can apply for a Clare’s Law application through your local police force. That’s how I finally found out that my ex-husband had been convicted of battering one of his exes, I knew I wasn’t the only one who he was abusive towards.

It is worth mentioning that abuse isn’t just physical. It can be psychological too. Psychological abuse can include intimidation, name calling, making you feel worthless, gaslighting, telling lies about you, causing arguments and fall-outs between you and friends and family, putting you down, and constantly making you feel like you’re walking around on egg shells. Perpetrators also tend to ‘move the goal posts’, for example they will love pizza one day then a week later hate it so you never know what to do. They also move things and will hide things such as keys or take the pushchair in the car so you can’t leave the house. I know it sounds like pathetic mind games but it all adds up to you losing your identity. You start sinking into a depressive state which they then use to convince you that you’re going mad, especially if you have been prescribed anti-depressants by your doctor. They will turn the children against you and counter anything you say to them, for example, you might make them fish fingers for tea and he will tell them that they don’t have to eat it.

I would also highly recommend reading Pat Craven’s Freedom Programme: Living With The Dominator, which is available on Amazon and can also be read for free with Kindle Unlimited subscriptions.

Another death by dangerous driving

JS147904943One of my pet hates in this world is people who drive under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol. So many people lose loved ones because of this extremely selfish crime and it looks like the Great British justice system is finally starting to toughen up on their punishments of drivers who are convicted of death by dangerous driving and driving under the influence.

A case which caught my attention recently was the sentencing of Connor Bainbridge. 21 year-old Bainbridge caused the death of 17 year-old Thompson and seriously injured his female passenger after driving whilst under the influence of drugs and alcohol. It was also brought to the attention of the court that Bainbridge had no insurance and only held a provisional licence.
Bainbridge, who was driving his female passengers mothers Skoda Fabia, was driving at 78mph in a 40mph zone whilst high on a cocktail of cocaine, ecstacy, cannabis and alcohol as well as suffering from having no sleep.

Prosecutor, M Giuliani, stated that Bainbridge overtook a car at 69mph then continued to accelerate and tyre marks, at the scene, showed he had reached 78mph, just before the 40mph zone reduces to a 30mph zone.
The overtaking manoeuvre, coupled with excessive high speed, caused him to lose control of the Skoda. Effectively, he was driving beyond the Skoda’s road-handling ability… He moved from side to side six times. The person he overtook formed the view that he was fighting to keep control. He failed to… The car became airborne, all four wheels leaving the road, and it rotated 90 degrees for 20 feet then hit the bridge wall.”

17 year-old Thompson was in the backseat of the car and was pronouced dead at the scene sue to head and chest injuries. The 17 year-old girl, who was in the front passenger seat, needed seven hours of emergency surgery and was put in an induced coma. Bainbridge broke his shoulder and leg and also required surgery.

M Scarborough, Bainbridge’s defence, said that Bainbridge has no previous convictions and was remorseful for his crime. He also added that Bainbridge had lost his father at the age of 18 and had turned to drugs as a coping mechanism.

Bainbridge was sentenced, by Mr Justice Goss, to five years and four months in prison as well as a five year driving ban to begin upon his release.

Now, I understand that he lost his father at the age of 18, however, there are other ways to deal with grief rather than turn to drugs. This isn’t the reason for the crime, the crime was caused by a selfish and stupid act, the fact that his father died 3 years previously was merely an excuse.
It was Bainbridge’s decision to get into the car, it was his decision to start the car and drive off. He would of known that he wasn’t capable of driving after taking his drugs cocktail just like he knew that driving whilst under the influence, as well as driving with no insurance and only having a provisional is illegal. But he decided to do it anyway.

I just hope that Bainbridge sees prison as an opportunity to come off the drugs and deal with his grief in a more stable and healthy manner which doesn’t cause harm to anyone else.

Rant about boy racers


Scrolling through the DM website and came across an article about a boy racer finally being found guilty of causing death by dangerous driving in 2016.

‘Miss Kennedy was killed on the evening of July 4, 2016, on the A4067 between Pontardawe and Glais – she was heading down the valley towards her home in Clydach, and travelling in the opposite direction of Price and Kedward.
After negotiating the Glais roundabout, the two defendants – Price in his turquoise Honda Civic Sport and Kedward in his black Vauxhall Astra SRi – began to race each other.’

‘A witnesses described how the two cars were ‘racing side-by-side’ along the road at speeds estimated to be between 70mph – 80mph, with neither of them wanting to ‘give in’. A few minutes later, Price, who was driving in the offside lane as he tried to overtake Kedward, slammed straight into the front of Miss Kennedy’s Ford Ka, sending it crashing off the carriageway. Miss Kennedy was killed instantly.’

‘Kedward, whose car was not caught up the crash, did not stop to see what had happened. Instead he drove to his grandfather’s house in Ystradgynlais, where he dumped a small amount of cannabis he had on him along with his mobile phone. He returned to the scene later that night to find the by-pass closed at the Pontardawe roundabout. He was subsequently arrested and in court complained about the way he was treated by police while in custody.’

The scumbag will be sentenced on Monday (16th April 2018).

Now, personally, I think that it should be made law that until you’re 25, you can’t have a car that has an engine size bigger than a 1 litre, and, if you cause an accident or commit any other dangerous motoring offence during that time, then you get your licence revoked immediately. It would certainly cut down on these kind of incidents because there are too many immature drivers who think, just because they have a car with sport in the name, they can drive like idiots. And it isn’t fair on the people who get caught up in their stupid showing off, it heightens insurance premiums, it makes it more expensive for people of the same age to get insurance that they can afford, and it also puts premiums up on that make and model of car.

If you want to race then tracks have special days for that but I fail to see why you would want to race a Honda Civic or a Vauxhall Astra, its not as if they’re super sporty cars.

And the fact that one of the scumbags had cannabis, which he dropped off at a relatives, just states that these people are too immature to have a licence, they will probably think they’re being ‘hard’ and ‘gangster’ but they just look pathetic.

No, I have no time for wannabe criminals who waste public resources by being trialed. Is it even worth sending them to prison? What will it achieve? Absolutely nothing. He will get a menial sentence of a few month, get out, go straight back to his life of crime and end up back inside a few months later. It’s a never ending cycle with people like this. Mark my words, this won’t be the last we will hear of Price and Kedward.

Parental responsibility?

Daily Mail: Primary school is forced to tell parents to stop smoking CANNABIS in the playground, as head teacher reports ‘inappropriate behavior’ to police. 

I couldn’t believe how anyone could be so selfish and stupid, when I read this article on #Upday. It stated in the article that the illegal drug was being passed around some of the parents and smoked ‘at the bottom of the school yard’ where pupils, aged between 2 and 11 years-old, were being collected.
The head teacher reported the incidents to the police, but some of the parents were unsatisfied with the ‘soft-touch’ approach by the police. It was also stated that some parents were reported to have been swearing which was ‘totally acceptable’.
A father stated that the police didn’t seem ‘bothered’ and that he would of thought anything concerning illegal substances being around schools and children would have been taken more seriously.

Now, I’m not naive enough to believe that no parent would ever do this around their own children, I know this happens, but I am a little shocked that the incidents weren’t taken more seriously. I mean surely any parent participating in drug taking is classed as neglectful and should be flagged up to Social Services? What if, while they’re high, they harm their child or worse, another child? What if their child, whilst at home, gets a hold of the drugs and takes them knowing that mummy and daddy take them so it must be ok? It is a risk to any child!

Also other parents don’t want their children breathing in second-hand smoke, let alone cannabis smoke, they don’t want to take their child smelling of cannabis when they take them home! There should be laws put in place for parents who choose to put their children around drugs, the child/children should be taken from the home immediately and placed in the care of a family who wouldn’t be so selfish or neglectful. The parents should then be convicted of child neglect and if any other child is affected by the actions of the offenders then they should be compensated financially.

These scumbags are giving the school a bad reputation  and how many parents are going to want to register their child with a school where some of the parents openly smoke weed at the school gates?

It infuriates me so much! And you know their children will grow up to be exactly the same because they believe that this sort of upbringing is normal. Maybe we should stop people like this reproducing? It would save a lot of money when it comes to benefits or minor court cases for possession of an illegal substance.
And yes, I said benefits because you just know that these people have never worked a day in their lives and will never do so. Why should the British tax-payers work to provide a lifestyle for lazy scum-of-the-earth smack-heads?


Scanning through the news on my Samsung S8+ Upday app and found an article which ?got my blood boiling.

An inmate has escaped from HMP Leyhill in South Gloucester. Keith Whitehouse, 56, was serving a life sentence for manslaughter, which he committed whilst on home release from prison in 1991, (when he was serving a sentence for kidnap). 
The staff at HMP Leyhill found that Whitehouse was missing when he failed to show up for roll call on the evening of Saturday 17th February 2018. 

Whitehouse is described as being a white, 6ft 5 ins male of slim build. He has short grey hair, a grey moustache and a goatee beard. He also has an eagle tattoo on his left arm and a leopard tattoo on his right arm. 
The police believe that Whitehouse has connections with the West Midlands and Brighton and could head to either of these areas. 
Police urge anyone who sees Whitehouse not to approach him and to call 999, quoting incident 23 of 18 February.

So a dangerous criminal was serving a life sentence in a category D prison (aka an open prison) for brutally battering a 21-year-old female over the head with a brick after forcing her to have sex at knife-point in a graveyard in 1991? He had already absconded from an open prison when he committed this offence so who the hell thought that it was a good idea to move him to another open prison? Did it not cross their mind that he could escape again? He is a danger to the public and should not have been put in a low security prison! I’ve said it before, and I will say it again, this is why we need to bring back the death penalty for severe offenders, until we do then there will continue to be incidents like this. I just hope that, for the sake of public safety, he is caught soon.

Wetherspoons Wedding?

Your wedding day is (supposed to be) the best day of your life. As a bride you want the romantic fairy tale dress, the glamorous venue and the best of everything for your big day of becoming a Mrs. BUT weddings come at a ,very high price, with the UK average wedding costing £ 27,161 (based on a survey of 400 brides). Wow!

But don’t worry if you are getting hitched and don’t want to spend more than your annual wage because Wetherspoons are now offering wedding packages for only £3000! And what do you get for the cost of a decent second hand car I hear you ask… Well the package includes; food, drink and decorations at the venue. You get exclusive use of the venue (Saturdays until 1am and Sundays until 12am), sparkling wine for up to 100 guests to toast the bride and groom, wine on the table to accompany the meal, table decorations, post-meal capacity of up to 300 guests, and a live DJ. Not a bad deal…

Now, personally, there is only one Wetherspoons that I actually like, and that is the Chief Justice of the Common Pleas in Keswick, Cumbria (UK) so a £3000 wedding package at my favourite place in England, sounds perfect to me, especially of it was following a ceremony on a barge on the lake or in Keswick park.
But I can see how some might chav it up a bit and make it look like a gypsy-wedding reject. Could a Wetherspoons wedding be a classy affair? Or would it be a chavs dream day? Only time will tell I guess.

EU Hoover Brigade

So there I was, scrolling through articles on the DM website, whilst the other half was watching the football, Malta v England to be precise, when I came across an article which made me think ‘what the actual hell is this world coming to?’.

High street retailers brace for a rush to buy vacuum cleaners as EU bans the most powerful models from today…
More powerful vacuum cleaners are to be banned from today after as a new EU law comes into effect.   
The new EU energy rule means manufacturers will not be able to make or import vacuum cleaners with a motor that exceeds 900 watts. […]
Those who are looking to upgrade to a new appliance should take note of the ‘eco labels’ on each machine.

The label lists: 

  • The energy rating on a scale of A++ (the most efficient) to E, based on the annual energy consumption 
  • The annual energy consumption, in kWh per year Dust re-emission class (A-G scale) 
  • How well it cleans carpet (A-G scale) 
  • How well it cleans hard floors (A-G scale) 
  • Noise level

Who the hell cares?! A hoover is a hoover, as long as it does the job which it is made for then who cares about the energy consumption or noise level… Noise level? Who on earth decided to put noise level as a point of concern? Never have I ever heard of anyone complaining about the volume of their neighbours hoover!

And obviously people should take into consideration how well the hoover cleans carpets and/or hard floors but shouldn’t an appliance, invented for cleaning, be up to scratch when it comes to doing what it was made for?

Shouldn’t the Eurocrats be debating more important matters? I mean we do have a high terror threat level throughout the EU, so shouldn’t they be more concerned on the amount of illegals that enter each of the member states, or the increasing number of terrorist incidents which result in innocent people losing their lives, rather than if the noise of my Dyson is going to piss off little Doris next-door?

Complete bloody madness!